Group holds ‘nurse-in’ after breastfeeding controversy at Costco

About two dozen parents held a “nurse-in” at the Costco on North Pointe Drive on Saturday to support breastfeeding mothers and children.

And then several of them went shopping.

Members of the SODU (South Durham) Parents Posse rallied after member Yael Symes said an incident with a store employee Friday made her uncomfortable while breastfeeding her daughter, Evelyn, in the warehouse store.

It wasn’t a boycott, or even a protest, members said, and a Costco spokesman said it was a misunderstanding.

Rather the mothers, and a few dads, said they wanted to remind everyone that breastfeeding is legal everywhere and to “normalize” a practice that still struggles for public acceptance.

Symes was shopping with her husband, Jeff, on Friday when Evelyn, 7 1/2 months old, started getting fussy.

It can take several minutes to get the baby to calmly feed, so Symes found a spot among the outdoor furniture boxes and, using a breastfeeding cover, began to nurse. Unless you were looking for patio furniture, you wouldn’t have seen her, she said.

A short time later, a store employee told Symes that someone had complained and that the store had a lactation room.

“She didn’t say the words, ‘You have to,’ ” Symes said. “But she said, ‘Follow me to the lactation room. I’ll get the key.’ ”

Symes, a UNC doctoral student in public health, said she was flustered.

“It made me feel really unwelcome,” she said, and the family left.

On social media, members of the SODU Parents Posse online support group encouraged Symes to hold the “nurse-in.”

Morning drizzle

By 10:30 a.m. Saturday a small crowd had gathered outside in the morning drizzle.

They walked in, settled among the picnic-style tables and began to feed their babies. Some brought breast milk or formula in bottles. Some breastfed, and at least one gave her baby ice cream.

“It’s so important for women to be able to feel comfortable and supported,” said City Council member Jillian Johnson, who brought her son, Langston, 2.

Johnson said she’s nursed in Costco without a problem.

“This is not a regular situation, but it does need to be addressed,” she said.

Kandus Fisher, a social worker, drove 35 minutes from Raleigh for the nurse-in.

It’s ironic that malls display Victoria’s Secret models without complaint, but “if a mother is breastfeeding in public and using her breasts in the manner nature intended them to be used it becomes a nuisance,” she said.

Lactation room

The store employee did not mean to make Symes uncomfortable, a Costco official said Saturday.

There had been a couple of complaints and the employee wanted to let Symes know she had another option, said Aldyn Royes, vice president for Operations Eastern Division.

“They weren’t asked to move into the lactation room,” he said. “We told a member we had a lactation room and she was welcome to use it. It was just merely an accommodation.”

Symes, who said she might have used the room had she known about it, said that’s not how it felt to her. And with Evelyn calmly latched, she didn’t want to disrupt the nursing and start all over.

Now, she just wants to make sure it doesn’t happen to her or another mother again.

“Babies are fussy when they’re hungry. If you’re going to a place like Costco, you’re not going to go in and out in five minutes,” she said. “Most women are going to be likely to nurse.”

This story was originally published April 2, 2016 at 4:22 PM with the headline "Group holds ‘nurse-in’ after breastfeeding controversy at Costco."