Bettheny Frankel in a good place

Bettheny Frankel is the happiest she’s ever been. She’s married to the love of her life; she has a beautiful baby girl and a successful career as business owner, reality star and author.

If only she weren’t so overextended.“I’d like to be less stressed,’’ admits Frankel from L.A. “But because of the way I’ve set up my life, I have a lot of obligations and people tugging at me.’’She quickly adds: “But I don’t like to complain; I’m truly blessed.’’Blessed, you could say so. She and hubby Jason Hoppy celebrate their first wedding anniversary on Monday, when she’ll appear on George Lopez’s Lopez Tonight.Romance may be out of the equation as they have Bryn with them. A new nanny is also there (not Gina from Ever After, who left due to a medical issue), but the couple doesn’t like to be without the baby around. “We’re always together. It’s wonderful,’’ Frankel gushes. We can see why this woman would get a little frazzled, though. Add to Frankel’s duties: a promotional tour for A Place of Yes (Touchstone). The self-helper is not like her other two diet-centered books, Naturally Thin and Skinnygirl Dish. “I burned the first version in a barbecue. I’m glad it’s behind me,’’ says Frankel, 40. “It was excruciating to write.’’Literally. The whole thing was typed out on her Blackberry. “I don’t know how I don’t have carpal tunnel.’’And figuratively. In A Place of Yes, Frankel (who was born in NYC but went to high school at the Pine Crest School in Fort Lauderdale), tells how her past failures in love and business helped get her to a good spot now. She dispenses advice and rules to live by – e.g., “You don’t have to have a master plan but unless you do something, you’ve done nothing’’ and “Treat every job, person and experience as if it could lead to your next big job opportunity.’’Although it wouldn’t appear that way now, Frankel has gone through her share of struggles, such as a “toxic’’ childhood. Her father abandoned the family when Bettheny was a toddler; her stepfather and mother gave her an unstable home life. “I’ve been told ‘no’ more than ‘yes,’ but that doesn’t mean all roads don’t lead to Rome,’’ says the former Real Housewives of New York City star. “Just do everything to the best of your ability and don’t assume people know more than you.’’Her biggest struggle these days? Getting shut-eye with a 10-month-old around.“I pray for a good night’s sleep that I don’t always get,’’ she says. “It’s not like I’m looking for any crazy balance. I put one foot in front of the other.’’ Madeleine Marr