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Do men who snap deserve to be dads?

So potty-mouthed racist Mel Gibson wants to be a dad again.

Not content with the seven children he fathered with his wife from his 28-year marriage (which isn't legally over by the way), the hate-spewing movie star was in Los Angeles family court yesterday, reportedly seeking to strip his "unstable" Russian lover of custody rights to their year-old daughter, Lucia. The ex-girlfriend, Oksana Grigorieva, wants him to be stripped, too (among many other punishments I'm sure this woman has imagined).

If there are any sane people left in this domestic drama, please grab the unfortunate child and run from the Hollywood Hills.

Everybody by now is familiar with Mel's inability to control his, uh, passion. An admitted manic depressive with a drinking problem, he denounced Jews for starting all the world's wars during a very public 2006 DUI arrest and called Latinos "wetbacks," suggesting he should turn over one of his employees to immigration authorities, in a series of taped telephone calls to his ex-lover earlier this year (the same series that featured him suggesting she'd be to blame if she got "raped by a pack of n***ers"). Oh, let's not forget his claim in a 1995 Playboy interview that men and women are unequal.

Does that mean he doesn't deserve to be a dad?

Mr. Lethal Weapon isn't the first Hollywood dad to lose his cool. Remember Alec Baldwin unleashing his volcanic temper on then-11-year-old daughter Ireland in 2007, when he called her a "rude, thoughtless, little pig" and bashed her mother, Kim Basinger, because the child didn't answer his scheduled morning phone call? A family law judge was so alarmed after hearing the tape, she temporarily barred Baldwin from having any contact with his child. Alec later blamed his outburst on a bitter, six-year custody battled and claimed he contemplated suicide after the phone message was made public. His daughter apparently forgave him. She was his red carpet escort last year at the Screen Actors Guild Awards in Hollywood.

And I guess that's my point: Daughters deserve the chance to forgive their fathers. Barring physical and mental abuse, dads – no matter how big of a creep – are still dads. And their kids have a right to know them and eventually make up their own minds about what kind of relationship they want with the guy.

People who love each other sometimes say some nasty sh*t to each other. People who no longer love each other can get even nastier. That's between them, not their kids. I'm not defending Mel Gibson, who makes my skin crawl. But, as horrifying as it can be, denying a child the right to know one of her parents is also a form of abuse.

Unless that dad is Charlie Sheen.

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