Q: My wife and I have accrued enormous debt. Even though creditors are always calling, she sneaks purchases into the house, which makes things worse and adds to clutter. The stress is affecting our relationship. Why can't she see what she's doing to us?
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Q: I'm always so stressed out! I can't stop worrying that I'm not doing a good job at work even though my boss assures me that I am. It takes me so much time to finish projects because they must be perfect and then I doubt myself. I worry about what people think of me, so I try to please everyone. All of that drains me. I tell myself to stop worrying but it doesn't work. What can I do?
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND
Q: My daughter (age 9) has a best friend whose mother is a close friend. The mother recently misconstrued an issue between the girls and humiliated my daughter, who did nothing wrong. My ''friend'' told her daughter to tell her if my kid ever said anything mean so she could ''get back at her.'' Her daughter is outspoken. My daughter is quieter. She asked me not to say anything. What should I do?
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Q: I've been married almost 10 years. We have a wonderful 5-year-old son. I want another baby, but my husband doesn't. He loves our son. How could he not love or want another? I'm thinking about stopping my birth control, not telling him and seeing what happens. Is that terrible?
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Q: My daughter (15, ninth grade) was invited to the prom by a senior (17). They go with a large group and afterward everyone spends the night at one house. Is this OK? I'm not sure how comfortable I am. I'm not overprotective, but I worry. The kids are nice, but you never know.
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for six months and I constantly feel insecure. At times he seems to really love me, then he withdraws or acts rude. In the past, he's broken up with girlfriends suddenly.
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Q: My son is 16, respectful and a good student. We have talked about sex, waiting until marriage, drugs and respect for others. He doesn't want a girlfriend to distract him from school. Yesterday, I discovered his screensaver is a naked woman and he has visited porn sites. In my day, we used to peek at dad's hidden Playboy magazines. Is this normal for a teenage boy?
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Q: My 13-year-old daughter is driving me crazy with her text messaging. I'm glad she has a phone so I can always reach her, but she's constantly sending and receiving messages so that we can't even have a conversation. Yesterday she was devastated over a ''text'' fight with her best friend. Should I hide the phone?
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND
Q: I recently got engaged to a nice guy who would be a great husband. I care for him, but I'm not in love. My mom says I'll grow into it. When I was young my father left and mom never met anyone else. What do you think?
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND
Q: I got divorced and became intimately involved with a longtime friend. I'm now in a relationship with him and my ex-husband. I've been traveling back and forth from him to my ex. Is this normal? Do I need to live on my own for a while?
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Q: I've been in what I thought was a good marriage for the past 15 years. I recently discovered he has an active profile on eHarmony! I couldn't believe it. When I confronted him he said he was curious, but he had never met anyone. I thought our life was perfect. Why would he do this?
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Q: My daughter is on an under 10 soccer team. One father constantly walks up the sidelines screaming instructions to his daughter. He also gets angry when she doesn't perform to his satisfaction. Everyone gets excited and shouts, but this guy is over the top. I can't even enjoy the game because he is so crazy. Should I say something?
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Q: I'm having a baby in a few weeks. We are very happy, but I'm worried. Will I ever have time for my favorite hobbies? Will the baby put a strain on our marriage? Will I always be grouchy from not sleeping? I shouldn't feel this way. Does this mean I'm too selfish to be a good mother?
LET'S TALK
Q: Every vacation, I visit my mother for several days and spend the rest with my partner. Mom's always trying to get me to stay longer and attend parties with her friends, which I do NOT enjoy. This year, when I told her no, she got very quiet. She always does this when I disappoint her. Now I feel guilty. Should I?
