Mom of four
Did this happen out of the blue, or have you always had a strained relationship with your husband’s mother? (I’m guessing it’s the latter.) If so, why?
If the genesis of this is something you have said or done, and you can’t mend fences, then perhaps it would be better if you made other plans while Bea visits. If it isn’t, then face it: You married a mama’s boy, and for that you have my sympathy.
Were I in your shoes, rather than inflict my presence on “Queen Bea,” I’d grab the chance to treat myself to a well-earned vacation when the “lady” is in town — and ditto when your husband and the kids go to visit Granny. Check into a spa and let yourself have a good time!
Your letter made me sad because there is nothing you can do to make your mother change her attitude. She appears to be an angry and unhappy person, who may perceive your closeness with your father as a threat to her. What you CAN do is stop placing so much importance on receiving her approval. If your coach thinks you’re doing well, and these sports bring you a sense of closeness with your father, then you should enjoy them for those reasons.