Adapted from a recent online discussion.
Yes, wallow, and watch When Harry Met Sally …, which has a satisfying take on the he-balked-at-marrying-and-now-he’s-marrying-someone-else phenomenon.
And — you don’t want to be “[any] where near where I was with the ex,” because it didn’t take you anywhere good.
Hang in there. He wasn’t the guy.
I’m partial to Haagen Dazs vanilla Swiss almond.
Well argued, thanks. And nothing beats a good argument for a half-pound of truffles.
Dear Carolyn: Do relationships go through cycles? Like where they’re good and then they go to OK, and then they go back to good? I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for three years and I’m beginning to notice this pattern. We’re good for a while, weeks, months, whatever span of time, and then we have a bigger-than-normal fight, and then we’re not so good for a while, but never more than a couple of weeks. Usually we’re a little distant for about a week or less. We do have arguments like any other normal couple.
Cycles, normal, yes — but extreme ones, no. Responding to stress by erupting into a fight big enough to disrupt your rhythm for days or weeks at a time? That’s normal, too, to a degree, but not in a good way and not out of necessity.
Add in the “psycho family,” and it sounds as if both of you could use some thought and hard work on the way you communicate, and manage and respond to stress. Deal?
Plus, it’s possible you get along well on the surface but have some incompatibilities you ignore, then can’t ignore but leave unresolved, then go back to ignoring.
I’m also not a big fan of discounting what Mom says, unless you know she’s unreliable or under-informed.