First we have Glee characters losing their virginity during prime time. And now here comes the next installment of the blockbuster Twilight movies with its boy-crazy "heroine" and her vampire baby.
It's a tough time to be a mom trying to raise girls with healthy attitudes about sex and boys.
I spend a lot of time trying to censor what my daughters are watching on TV. It's such a losing battle that I do wonder if it's time to change strategy. Does it make more sense to let it go, know they are going to encounter this stuff, and just make sure they understand the context? That they are aware of the "real" consequences of the behavior they see? That they have their own values and are able to make good decisions?
Consider this perspective, from today's Miami Herald story on the new Twilight movie (read the whole article here):
The movie is the latest example of an ongoing cultural shift that allows movies (Easy A, Remember Me) and TV shows (The Vampire Diaries, Gossip Girl) aimed at teenagers to tackle subject matter that might have seemed too adult even a decade ago.
“The culture has gotten more comfortable over time talking about issues,” said 'Breaking Dawn' screenwriter Melissa Rosenberg, who was an executive producer on several TV series (including 'The O.C.' and 'Dexter') before signing on to adapt all of Meyer’s 'Twilight' novels into movies.
“Maybe this is an overly hopeful and idealist perspective, but we’ve learned that talking about something is much healthier than pretending it doesn’t exist. In the TV and film world, that allows us to get into these issues within the context of a story. Everyone is always nostalgic about the 1950s, but there was all this horrible stuff going on then, too. Film and TV have helped bring these things out into the open.”
When a mom in the office the other day heard me say I wasn't letting my 12-year-old read the third part of the Twilight series yet, she asked, "Do you really think your daughter doesn't know about what's in that book?"
I'm sure she does, as many of her friends have read the whole series. Does that mean I want her to wallow in all the sensual details? Not yet.
Kids are growing up super fast today. They're dealing with issues in middle school that our generation didn't confront until well into high school.
Can you blame me for trying to slow it down?