But so did politics. Fed up with the increasingly totalitarian government, Lino became second in command to the anti-Castro Movement to Recuperate the Revolution, or the MRR. Emy helped him in the underground. Captured in February 1961, he was sentenced to 30 years.

While her husband was in the Isla de Pinos prison, Emy had to make a decision that would forever alter not only her life, but also the lives of her children and her parents, who were already raising Emy's three younger brothers. "She was really the one who suffered most, " Lino now says. "I was in prison, living a reduced life. She made that tough decision alone."

WHEN LOVE COUNTS

But, he admits, "knowing that she loved me in this way" helped him endure isolation, meager food rations, scarce medical care, swarms of bedbugs, dirty drinking water and psychological torture that included, among other things, sporadic family visits. He was luckier than others, however, because as a doctor he was not forced into the work gangs and instead helped in a clinic for a while.

In one May 1967 letter smuggled from La Cabana prison, where he was moved after Isla de Pinos prison closed, he wrote in minuscule letters: 'I told you I was reasonably well, but after reading your letter it is so different. I cannot live without you. I have had you every instant inside me, very deeply inside me. I am not worried, but I am dying to see you. The only thing that hurts is not being able to embrace you."

Now, in the comfort of his Coral Gables home, he laughingly points to the stack of mail, particularly those he received in prison, signed "Siempre, Emy" -- "Always, Emy."

"Over the years, I realized it was a real expression, not just something to sign a letter with, " he says.

During those 17 long years, Emy lived with different friends. Her experience was not uncommon; many Cuban families were separated because the government would allow some members to leave and would force others to stay. Some wives sent their children to relatives and waited for their imprisoned husbands. Others had fled the island with their kids.

For Emy, any news from the children -- in letters or through friends and the rare phone call -- was savored for months. One time a diplomat's daughter was able to bring Emy a construction paper drawing of three cats: "De tus tres gatitos. Te amamos." From your three little kittens. We love you." A friend who lived in Colombia would also send her information after visiting Miami.

Knowing her children were growing up without her was "very painful, " but she said she also knew that "they were having a normal childhood, not afraid or hidden away."

In Miami, Emilia Maria, Lino Jr. and Lucia skinned knees, graduated school, discovered love. The letters from Cuba were treasured, but "we always wondered why they weren't here, why my mother couldn't come with us, " says Emilia Maria, now 48. "It was a hard way to grow up."

They had no memories of Cuba, nor of their young parents, because Emilia Maria, the eldest, was 2½ when she left Cuba. But their grandparents, extended family and friends kept their parents alive through stories.

'LIKE HEROES'

"They were like heroes to us, " says Lucia Fernandez-Silveira, who was only 6 months old when she left Cuba. "Everybody spoke of them so highly."

What's more, the children knew others who were in the same situation. But, admits Fernandez-Silveira, every day she would ask herself why her mother had chosen as she had. She says she doesn't know if she could have done the same.

"Their absence was like a presence in our childhood, " she adds. 'It's a pain you carry with you because of all the things you missed out on."

When they returned, it took many months for the family to bond again. "We would automatically go to my grandparents to ask for something because that's what we had always done, " recalls Emilia Maria. "But my grandparents were very smart. They would tell us, 'Go ask your mother.' "

Lucia remembers a few clashes. Her parents, she said, were still living in the 1950s. They were aghast at "the liberties we had, especially the girls." But they acclimated quickly. "They worked real hard at it and were always there. It was like they were making up for lost time, " Lucia adds.

Now the book has provided the Fernandez children with details of their parents' lives that supplemented the stories their grandparents told them. Emilia Maria says. "Theirs is a great love story."

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