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Dear Abby: Boss who’s object of gossip needs a word to the wise

 

Dear Abby: Should I or shouldn’t I tell my boss that more than a few people have come to me asking if he is fooling around with a young woman here in the office?

He is married. She is not. They spend a lot of time together “just visiting,” laughing and obviously flirting. They have also been seen coming and going together, having lunch together every day, etc.

My reaction is that whether they are or aren’t, it isn’t my business. A little voice keeps telling me that, as his personal secretary, he may want to be made aware that people are talking about him behind his back, and I do feel protective and a sense of loyalty to him. Understand that I do not want to discuss it with him, have verification, denial or anything else — only to give him the information.

Vacillating

If there is anything going on in your employer’s business that distracts from the work his employees are doing, he should be made aware.

Dear Abby: A few years ago, I relocated to a new state and bought my first home. I have enjoyed the privacy I have had while living on my own. However, because of the economy, I may need to rent out my extra room to make ends meet.

I have gotten used to a clothing-optional lifestyle and spend most of my time outdoors sunning, swimming and doing yard work in the buff. I also enjoy being indoors lounging, doing chores and sleeping the same way.

Would it be OK for me to advertise for someone who also enjoys this? Can I continue my lifestyle “au naturel” or must I go back to covering?

Nude Dude

While practically anything goes in the want ads and on the Internet, your best bet would be to Google “nudists” or “naturists” in your area. When you do, you will find contact information for nudist resorts and clubs, and your chances of finding a renter who won’t be shocked or offended will be better.

Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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