Dear Abby: In response to the letter from “Family First in Florida” (Nov. 3), it’s no wonder her son and daughter-in-law want some peace and quiet when their new baby arrives.
I wanted privacy during and after childbirth, and I’m grateful my mom and MIL respected our wishes. I needed time to establish a nursing routine, heal and get to know my baby before I was ready to host overnight guests.
My kids’ grandmas both have strong, loving relationships with their grandkids, so please remind “Family First” she’s not missing out on anything. She'll still get to be a doting granny, but for now she should back off.
I’m pleased everything worked out well for you. That woman’s letter hit a nerve with my readers. A sampling of their comments:
Dear Abby: “Family First’s” son is putting HIS family first, as he should. The essence of a mother’s love is sacrifice. It’s time to put aside her dreams and help her son fulfill his.
Dear Abby: My mother was a godsend, taking care of everything around the house while we bonded with our baby. When our second child arrived, she helped with our older one. Childbirth is difficult. I don’t think this new mom realizes she won’t be able to do it all.
Dear Abby: Has “Family First” considered that her daughter-in-law’s mother may be coming? Unfair as it may seem, in cultures around the world, the role of the paternal grandmother is far different than that of the maternal grandmother.
Knows for sure