Adapted from a recent online discussion.
Dear Carolyn: My sister just turned 21 and has just started dating a 30-year-old. I think the relationship is inappropriate given the age difference, but when I bring it up with her, she becomes defensive and the conversation almost always ends with one of us hanging up on the other. To add a little context, she met this man at college. They are both undergraduates, but he has previously been in the military and is getting his degree at an older age. Am I right to be suspicious of an older gentleman’s intentions, or am I overreacting? How can I approach this productively with my sister?
(1) Overreacting; (2) Bite your tongue.
She’s 21. Stop hovering, stop thinking you can or should cushion her world for her, and go to the window to say hello to 2014. “An older gentleman’s intentions”? Click.