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Dear Abby: Favorite hairdresser divorces her husband, not her cousin

 

Dear Abby: For 17 years I have been using the same hairstylist, “Marietta,” because she does great cuts and color. She’s married to my cousin “Gil,” but not for long. They’re divorcing.

Gil’s mother suggested I should find a different stylist, but when I did, I had horrible results. I returned to Marietta and it took her several appointments to correct my color.

Some family members are now furious with me for getting my hair done by someone who is soon to be a relative’s ex. I look at it as a business. I like what Marietta does for me. We never discuss the divorce. Family is now demanding an apology, and I don’t think I owe one. I haven’t been close to any of these people in years.

Must I say I’m sorry to distant family and discontinue Marietta’s services? Or should I say nothing and continue my professional relationship with her? My roots are beginning to show again, so please answer quickly.

Snipped

Tell Gil’s mother to stay out of your hair. You tried leaving Marietta; it was a disaster — and you plan on using her until the day you curl up and dye.

Dear Abby: My in-laws double dip everything. During a holiday get-together, a family member stood eating out of a pot. Now my M-I-L informs me her daughter allows her dog to eat off the plates, but “she uses a dishwasher” so I shouldn’t worry about germs.

How do I handle this? I can’t eat there again.

Grossed out

Eat before you go, and go as infrequently as possible.

Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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