Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Mark,” and I have been together for a year. We met at work, and have dated ever since. Several months ago we were offered a job opportunity in another state. We moved in together and are happy.
My problem is, over the past few months we have been living together, our personal relationship has come to a halt. We still care about each other deeply, but no longer do the things couples do. We don’t go out on dates or see the new city we’ve moved to.
Do you have any advice on how I can get Mark to go out and see the sights without sounding whiny or pushy?
Baltimore and D.C. Beckon
Tell Mark the two of you appear to have become housebound and you don’t think it’s healthy – particularly because Baltimore and Washington, D.C., have many entertainment and cultural opportunities to offer. Then create a “bucket list” and have him choose from the menu of choices that are available. If that doesn’t inspire him, ask HIM to create a list, or start exploring on your own.
If you are successful at getting Mark out of the house, it may liven up your relationship. But if it doesn’t, you may have more serious problems to deal with, and a heart-to-heart talk with him about your entire relationship is in order.
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