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Dear Abby: Military woman eager to start family should pause to think

 
 
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Dear Abby: I am a 19-year-old female who is serving in the U.S. Air Force. I’m stationed overseas at the moment, and I plan to make the military my career.

I have reached a point in life when I am ready to have a family. Unfortunately, I haven’t found a man who is compatible with me. Every relationship I have ends because it conflicts with my military schedule.

I know adoption is a hard process, but I’m willing to go through it. What do you think about my trying to adopt as a single parent?

Unsure of My Next Move in England

I’m glad you asked because I think you’re jumping the gun. At 19, your search for someone compatible has been limited because of your youth and job responsibilities.

Who would care for your little one if you, as a single mother, were transferred to a “hot spot,” or injured or worse? Would relatives assume the responsibility? Before becoming a mother — adoptive or otherwise — it’s important that you think about this realistically from the point of view of what would be best for the child. If you wait to become a parent until you are older, as many women do today, you will be better equipped emotionally and financially for the responsibility.

Dear Abby: With Halloween fast approaching, I would like to remind cat owners to keep them safely indoors on the days surrounding this holiday. Unfortunately, some people still associate cats with Halloween superstitions. Please do not assume that black cats are the only felines at risk. Any cat can be the target of a cruel Halloween prank.

Cat Lover in the South

Thank you for the reminder. Please, everyone, keep yourselves and your pets safe this Halloween.

Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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