Adapted from a recent online discussion.
As a woman who has struggled with my weight most of my life, I’d like to offer a little perspective on a past column about hearing “svelte” friends complain about their weight (http://wapo.st/10NppvW).
I have several friends who were always thin and have gained weight as they’ve gotten older. To me, who until recently was close to 300 pounds, I think they look great.
But when they’re used to being a certain size and that is no longer their reality, it’s understandably bothersome. I also have a few friends who are thin but just want to drop those last five or 10 pounds. It’s all in what we’re comfortable with.
Yes, some women have unhealthy body images, but just because you may be overweight doesn’t mean thinner people aren’t allowed to moan about wanting to cut back, too.
Everyone’s different, yes, and one person’s normal varies widely from another’s, but that doesn’t mean sensitivity and the occasional clue aren’t valuable to civilized society. If anything they’re more important
Thin people want to lose a pooch? Great. They should do it and be happy. And keep their traps shut.
You are very generous in your view of your friends, and I don’t mean to discourage that — generosity is perhaps even more valuable than the aforesaid sensitivity — but there are enough responsibilities here to go around.