Dear Abby: I’m 24 and a college graduate. My boyfriend, ”Jordan,” and I have been together for a year and we would like to get married. However, my parents are against the idea. They love Jordan, but they think marriage is stupid because, in 2013, “WHO is getting married?”
I think this is totally ridiculous, but I don’t know what to do. I want to be married and I would love my parents’ approval, but it’s hard when they call me stupid for wanting to take that step just because their marriage didn’t work out.
I love Jordan and I love my parents. Should I have to choose between the two?
You do not have to choose between your parents and being married. At 24, you are an adult and mature enough to make your own decision about the importance of the institution.
As to the question of “who is getting married” these days, one answer is people with college degrees are marrying at a greater rate than those with only a high school education — and their unions are more lasting. I hope you and Jordan enjoy many happy and fulfilling years together.
Dear Abby: What are your thoughts about co-workers dating? I have a crush on one of my co-workers, and I believe it is reciprocated. We’re unsure about an office romance because, while it isn’t against the rules for people to date within the building, there are concerns about sexual harassment or inappropriate behavior on the premises.
Working Relationship in Indiana
This may seem old-fashioned, but I’m not crazy about the idea of office romances. While I know they are not uncommon and it’s hard to fight mutual attraction, office romances are distracting. When the pheromones are flying, it can be extremely difficult to concentrate on the tasks at hand. And if it doesn’t work out, there can be tension, embarrassment and hard feelings in the aftermath, and that’s not good for business.