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Dear Abby: Single mom rips older workers for staying on the job too long

 

Dear Abby: I am appalled at older workers who hang onto their jobs so they can live lavish lifestyles, while young workers trying to support families are left with lack of advancement or even laid off because they don’t have tenure.

I am a single mom, and when my sons are out of college I plan to take a less stressful job (and thus less pay), so a younger person can have my job to support a family. I am so tired of the ME ME ME attitude of our society now. In the past, there was more of a sense of social responsibility. Now it’s every man for himself and hang everyone else!

Disgusted in Columbus, Ohio

While your altruism is laudable, please try to be less judgmental. Many older people work longer these days not to live lavish lifestyles, but to survive.

Unless you have a crystal ball that enables you to see what seniors have in the bank, it’s presumptuous to say someone should retire. Many seniors are unprepared financially to do so through no fault of their own. And while you may think now that you’ll take a reduction in pay when your sons are out of college, it remains to be seen if that will be feasible for you when the time comes.

Dear Abby: My cousin died a short time ago at a very young age and in an unnatural and devastating way. As soon as people outside the family started finding out, they began asking what happened. Many of these questions were posted on my relatives’ Facebook pages.

Is it just me or isn’t that a very insensitive thing to do? It’s not just that they are asking questions of a grieving family who lost their son only hours before, but that they did it through Facebook.

Mourning in the Midwest

Please accept my sympathy for your family’s tragic loss. We live in an age in which respect for privacy has nearly disappeared, and folks routinely bare intimate and sensitive details about their lives on the Internet. If a person wishes to convey this kind of information, it is usually done VOLUNTARILY, and certainly not when feelings are raw.

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