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Dear Abby: Boyfriend’s man-of-mystery act causes woman to wonder

 

Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, and it has been wonderful. He’s amazing and sweet.

We went to the movies for our anniversary and about 50 minutes into it, he turned to me, said he didn’t like the movie and he wanted to leave. I was enjoying it, but I didn’t want to force him to watch it, so we left. When we were out of the theater I asked him why he didn’t like it, and he told me he didn’t want to discuss it. I pressured him for an answer a little bit, but he told me to forget it.

This has been bugging me. Should I leave it alone? I understand it’s not that big a deal, but he has done this a few times before — not explaining things when I ask. I am confused about why he won’t tell me.

Puzzled in the Multiplex

There may have been something in the movie that made your boyfriend uncomfortable. Perhaps it triggered a memory of something in his past that he didn’t want to be reminded of. Or, he may have been bored by the film and so centered on himself that he didn’t care that you were enjoying it.

Your boyfriend may be wonderful and amazing, but he also appears to be a poor communicator. This would be a deal-breaker with some women. Only he can tell you why he’s this way, but if he hasn’t opened up in the year you have been seeing each other, it isn’t likely to change.

Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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