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Dear Abby: Love is a one-way street for cautious teenage girl

 

Dear Abby: I’m 15 and have been dating this guy for two weeks. I have known him for three years. I really like him and he makes me happy.

He has already told me he loves me, but I don’t say it back because I’m not going to say it until I’m absolutely sure I do. I know it bothers him, but Abby, am I right for not saying it back? Please answer fast because I need your help.

Teen in New York

You are absolutely right. Although you have known this young man for three years, now that you are dating, the character of your relationship has changed. If he seems hurt that you’re not saying “I love you” back, just tell him you need time because this is all new to you. It’s truthful.

Dear Abby: I’m 13 and read your column every day. My parents fight a lot. When they fight, I try to get in between them and keep it down. It’s not very effective, though. I don’t want their fighting to leak out. Therapy doesn’t seem possible.

Do you have some tips to keep them from fighting with each other? I’m an only child and don’t have any relatives who live nearby.

The Referee

Parents fight for many reasons, none of them having to do with you. The problems could be lack of money, job stress or something in their relationship with each other that isn’t working.

If it were possible for you to fix their marriage, I would advise you how to do it, but the only people who can do that are your parents themselves — if they are willing. If their fighting escalates to violence, rather than put yourself in the middle, you should call the police.

Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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