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Carolyn Hax: Partner’s suggestion for baby name reminds her of ex

 

Adapted from recent online discussions.

Dear Carolyn: In a recent conversation with my significant other, we started talking about baby names we like (no chance of kids yet, just one of those odd conversations you stumble into). He mentioned one boy’s name he really wanted to use.

It is the name of one of my exes and I am really opposed to using it. He thinks it shouldn’t be a big deal since I didn’t date the guy for long, but I have a problem disassociating the name with the guy. There are a few names I wouldn’t want to use, boy and girl, because they remind me of people I really do not want to be reminded of. Thoughts?

Anonymous

Each parent has veto power over a name, but, for what it’s worth, an association with a non-significant ex will be quickly erased as your someday baby inhabits the name. If the association is too bad for that to be true, then you can both stop reading at “Each parent has veto power.”

Unasked-for bonus advice: Save any digging in on names for when you and the person in question conceive the child in question and the child turns out to be of the sex of the name in question. Until then, it’s guaranteed that you have better things to fight about, even if you haven’t thought of them yet.

Email Carolyn at tellme@washpost.com or follow her on Facebook at facebook.com/carolyn.hax.

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