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Dear Abby: Mom flirts with her boyfriend

 

Dear Abby: I have been dating my boyfriend, “Adam,” for three years. Although we are young, we are serious about our relationship. Not too long after we started dating, Adam began staying over at my house on most weekends. I live with my mom, who is 47.

For the past year when Adam comes to visit, my mom has been coming out of her bedroom in her bra and panties. She also makes flirtatious comments to Adam.

I have tried talking to her about it, but she continues with the flirting and underdressing. What can I do about this?

Desperate in Maine

You may be desperate, but not as desperate as it appears your mother is for attention. Because talking to her hasn’t helped, accept that she is not going to change her behavior. Have Adam stay over less often. When you meet with your friends, do it at someone else’s house. And if you can afford to move elsewhere, you should consider it.

Dear Abby: I am a single mother of a 12-year-old boy. Three or four of his friends are constantly over at our house, and I feel obligated to feed and/or entertain them. Their parents don’t send money for their meals and often don’t even call to check on them, so they are left spending the night here.

I don’t think I should be expected to pay for their food and fun or feel guilty if my son and I eat and they don’t.

Single Mom in the South

Call the boys’ parents and have a friendly chat with them. I agree that the current situation isn’t fair to you, and because the boys are at your home so often, their parents should be chipping in. Alternatively, start sending the boys home at dinner time.

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