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Dear Abby: She’s moving to ex-boyfriend’s complex

 

Dear Abby: I ’m planning on moving into the same apartment complex as my ex-boyfriend. It’s all I can afford and still be close to where my family lives. He’ll be on one side, and I’ll be on the far side. I don’t think he will be driving to the side I’ll be living on.

Should I text him and let him know I’m moving nearby but I’m not stalking him? Or should I keep my mouth shut and hope he never sees my car?

Too Close for Comfort

Before you sign the lease, ask yourself how you would feel if you saw your ex-boyfriend involved with another woman. If it would be painful, then it would be healthier for you to find an apartment elsewhere.

Next, ask yourself why your ex might think you were stalking him. If there is a grain of truth to it, again, you should not move there. If, however, there isn’t, it is not necessary to text him about anything. If he sees your car and has a problem with it, do not make it your problem. The romance is over and so is the drama. Live your life and let him live his.

Dear Abby: I’ve been divorced for nearly two years, and my ex and I have moved on. My question is about our family portraits. I don’t want to throw them away because of my kids, but I don’t really want them around my house either. What should I do?

Not Looking Back in Austin

Put them in an album or display them in your children’s bedrooms if they wish. Although the marriage is over, your ex is still their father and, hopefully, he will always be a part of their lives.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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