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Carolyn Hax: Readers advise on envy and friends with problems

 

While I’m away, readers give the advice

O n envying your friends’ success:

(1) Get rid of your TV — for mountains of reasons that become obvious when you think about it.

(2) Cultivate a few friends who value giving, and who believe living lightly on the earth is a better goal than acquiring.

(3) Focus on what you can do to make the world a better place.

I made the transition 30 years ago and still wake up with a smile every morning.

D.

On having friends disappear on you:

Folks who are feeling miffed about plans being canceled, emails going unanswered or friends acting funny, please consider they may have something going on in their lives bigger than you, and it’s OK, the friendship is still there.

This smacked me upside the head recently. A friend was acting moody, and I later learned his wife had a miscarriage. Another friend FINALLY showed up for a night with the gang, and he emailed later to thank us since he’s been dealing with his ailing father, which we had no idea about. Their struggles are not my business until they’re ready to talk about them, and it doesn’t mean they value my friendship any less.

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