Dear Abby: I need help and don’t know where to turn. I am divorced and have a 37-year-old son, “Teddy,” who has never married and has no children. He lives on his own except when he’s in trouble or has nowhere else to go. Then he moves back in with me.
The problem is my son is a liar and has been ever since he was a teenager. He even lies when telling the truth would be better. I punished him every way I knew how when he was growing up. Nothing worked.
Teddy has been in trouble with the law in the past and is now in trouble again. Of course, he says he’s innocent. I got him out on bond and offered to get him help. I also told him there would be no more money from me, and I no longer want to hear his lies.
Another problem: Teddy is extremely good-looking and women swoon over him. He ends up using them and then dumping them, and then they call me.
I don’t know why he is the way he is. Is there treatment for people who can’t tell the truth? I love my son and it breaks my heart to see him do these bad things.
Brokenhearted mother in Texas
As much as you love Teddy, it’s time to accept that you can’t fix what’s wrong with him; only he can do that. It won’t happen until he finally has to accept the consequences of his bad behavior.
Taking him in and bailing him out is not the answer. It also helps no one when you have long conversations with the women who call you, so protect yourself by cutting them short. Considering the kind of man your son is, thank your lucky stars that he has no children — yet.