Carolyn Hax

Carolyn Hax: Parent wants to horn in on seniors’ camping trip

 

Dear Carolyn: My child is a senior in high school and will be graduating in June. Instead of the usual beach week, my child’s group of eight to 10 friends wants to go camping. I think this is a great idea. Within this group of kids, there are two couples. The mother of one of these four kids insists on going along, even though she has given her child permission to attend the same out-of-state college as her child’s boyfriend.

All of these kids will be 18. They are all trustworthy, smart, churchgoing kids with high morals. My child is frustrated, and several of the kids are considering canceling if the parent goes along. Am I viewing this from the wrong side?

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As long as you waited to form your opinion until you considered the perspectives of others — including the seniors, the other mom, anyone who knows anything about camping — you satisfied your obligation to be fair.

After that, if you feel strongly that this mother is overstepping, then talk to her.

Or, if you believe well-behaved 18-year-olds have earned the right to be treated as adults, and that’s why you think the mom is overstepping, then back that up: Let your child and the rest of the group decide how they want to handle their uninvited guest.

And if you believe “high morals,” churchgoing and smarts inoculate anyone against impulsiveness or temptation, then history just fell off its chair laughing. Don’t ask more than human beings can give. The trust you need here is trust that these seniors can handle themselves, not that everything will be s’mores and campfire songs.

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