Dear Abby

Dear Abby: Father-in-law keeps unsecured, loaded guns around kids

 

Dear Abby: My father-in-law, “Earl,” is an alcoholic and an avid gun enthusiast. He owns many weapon. He has been accumulating ammunition at an accelerated rate because he’s afraid that large clips will soon be banned. He drinks to excess.

Last summer, during one of his moments of inebriation, he shot a gun into the air as a “surprise” to the eight family members who were sitting within two to 10 feet of him. He takes pride in the fact that his guns are kept loaded, as “what good is an unloaded gun?” On two separate occasions, a loaded gun was found unsecured in his home.

When my husband and I travel with our children, ages 7, 5 and 4, to visit his family, we stay in Earl’s home. I feel the combination of alcohol and loaded, unsecure guns is not safe for my children. I have suggested to my husband that we stay in a hotel during our visits from now on. The problem is, my husband is unable to stand up to his father. He told me that when he tried talking to him about his concerns, Earl called him a “wimp.”

Please tell me how to get through to my husband.

Gun-shy in South Carolina

A man who would allow his small children to stay in the home of an alcoholic who keeps unsecured, loaded weapons around IS a wimp. There are responsible gun owners, and there are individuals like your alcohol-soaked in-law, who seem to have never learned that a bullet fired into the air must fall down somewhere.

Your husband doesn’t have to “stand up” to his father. All he has to do is make a hotel reservation and be sure the children spend no unsupervised time with Grandpa. To do anything less is child endangerment. Because your husband is unwilling to be the strong one, the responsibility for your children’s lives falls to you.

Dear Abby is written by AWrite Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Read more Lifestyle stories from the Miami Herald

  • Orlando

    SeaWorld drops appeal of OSHA violation

    SeaWorld Entertainment has dropped an appeal of citations it received after the drowning of a trainer who was pulled under by a killer whale, ending any chance of trainers ever again swimming with orcas during shows.

  •  
 <span class="cutline_leadin">‘COMPLEX ISSUE’:</span> Dr. Juan Martinez specializes in kids’ sleep disorders.

    Pediatric sleep disorders

    Sleep disorders may be behind a child’s lack of concentration

    With any malady, the symptoms that arise can lead medical professionals down paths to a range of unsound conclusions. Pediatric sleep disorders are no exception, and according to local experts, children who suffer from them are often misdiagnosed.

  •  
The Royal Caribbean cruise ship Mariner of the Seas is docked at the international passenger port in Shanghai, China.

    Global cruise lines set sail for China

    Royal Caribbean’s newest ship has attractions not usually seen on cruise liners, including bumper cars, a skydiving simulator and a glass observation capsule on a mechanical arm that lifts its passengers high into the air.

Miami Herald

Join the
Discussion

The Miami Herald is pleased to provide this opportunity to share information, experiences and observations about what's in the news. Some of the comments may be reprinted elsewhere on the site or in the newspaper. We encourage lively, open debate on the issues of the day, and ask that you refrain from profanity, hate speech, personal comments and remarks that are off point. Thank you for taking the time to offer your thoughts.

The Miami Herald uses Facebook's commenting system. You need to log in with a Facebook account in order to comment. If you have questions about commenting with your Facebook account, click here.

Have a news tip? You can send it anonymously. Click here to send us your tip - or - consider joining the Public Insight Network and become a source for The Miami Herald and el Nuevo Herald.

Hide Comments

This affects comments on all stories.

Cancel OK

  • Marketplace

Today's Circulars

  • Quick Job Search

Enter Keyword(s) Enter City Select a State Select a Category