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Dear Abby: Loving grandfather hurt by sudden silent treatment

 

Dear Abby: My two adult granddaughters have rejected me, their doting grandfather. Their father gave me this explanation: “They are uncomfortable with the way you rub their shoulders and necks.”

These girls and both parents have misinterpreted my innocent expressions of affection, which haven’t changed since the girls were little. The only change is in their perception of my actions.

I am devastated. I asked twice to meet with these family members to discuss their concerns. It has been three months; no meeting time has been offered. There has been no contact, and neither girl has called me for any reason this year.

I can’t just stop loving those with whom I have forged a 20-year bond of affection. How can this rupture be repaired?

Grieving Granddad

Clearly, there is a need for some professional mediation here, provided your granddaughters and their parents are willing. If your touches have been regarded as inappropriate, you should have been warned about it years ago. Obviously something has made your granddaughters uncomfortable, and the rupture won’t heal until it can be discussed openly.

Dear Abby: Lately I have noticed that people are bringing their dogs shopping with them. I’m not talking about service dogs, but pets.

The other day, a woman brought her dog into the grocery store. Why does management allow this?

Asking in Poway, Calif.

You should speak to the store manager and ask why it was permitted, because I was under the impression that health laws do not permit canines inside establishments that sell food — unless they are service dogs.

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