While I’m away, readers give the advice:
Believe it or not, we single women are not perpetually on the prowl for other women’s husbands. If a spouse’s co-worker is crossing boundaries, then she’s crossing boundaries, whether she is married, single or whatever. That she is single is beside the point, and to assume the risk level goes up because she’s single is an insult to single people. Just had to get that off my (voluptuous, Jessica Rabbit-esque, husband-stealing) chest.
My sister was the first grandchild and therefore golden, and I was the disappointing second girl. My parents were adamant that two children was the limit, so there was never a grandson to carry on the family name, and it was my fault for being the disappointing second girl.
As we got older, my sister became more aware of my grandmother’s favoritism and she often would get more incensed about it than I did, and it spoiled the good relationship they had.
My grandmother has been dead many years now but it still saddens me to think how her bitterness drove a wedge between her and her only two grandchildren, and how lonely she must have been.
We all tend to be very protective of our kids, rightly so. But I always told my kids that not everyone will like them and they will not like everyone, that’s life, and they need to attempt to be polite. I would just caution parents not to influence their children to think ill of absentee relatives, and to just lighten up a bit.
— Been-There-Done-That Mom