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Dear Abby: Husband secretly planned his funeral

 

Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for seven years. Since our wedding, he has had increasing health problems.

He recently told me that he planned his funeral three months ago, without saying a word to me. I am very concerned that he seems more focused on death than on life. Am I wrong to be upset? He says I am.

Wife in Burlington, N.J.

I don’t blame you for being concerned because husbands and wives should be able to discuss important topics with each other, and this is one of them.

When your husband has his next medical appointment, go with him so you can speak with his physician. It’s possible that because of his “increasing health problems” he has become depressed, and if that’s the case, his doctor should be told.

Dear Abby: During these hard times, may I tell you about my daughter? Every year at Christmas, I let our children pick one present for around $30 for themselves. They know that we don’t have a lot of money and that “Santa” brings only a few presents.

My daughter chose to give her “Christmas money” to a charity so that another family can be blessed. She’s only 9, and she understands there are families who are in more need than us. She truly is an angel for reminding me of that.

I went to our local food pantry and told them what my daughter wanted to do for Christmas. The director wrote her a letter of thanks and explained how many families her $30 would be helping. I’m so proud of my girl. Sometimes it takes a child to remind us how all of us should act.

Blessed in Illinois

Yes, it’s true. But invariably it takes good parents to instill a spirit of empathy and generosity in their children. So some of the credit belongs to you.

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