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Dear Abby: Widower looks for right way to say ‘thanks’

 

Dear Abby: My wife died a few years ago. I live alone. Old friends have been kind enough to pass along the names and phone numbers of widows or divorcees they felt would be of interest to me. I have taken several of them out to dinner. Some were interesting, but for one reason or another we didn’t have enough “chemistry” for me to call them for another date.

What is the considerate thing to do after having just one date? Should I call the person and say it was pleasant, but …? Should I not call at all and move on?

Miami Widower

Conversations such as this can be awkward, which is why many people avoid having them. A way to handle it would be to say you had a nice time, but you are still grieving and are not ready for a relationship. Chemistry is supposed to be mutual, so don’t be surprised if some of the women aren’t interested in pursuing a relationship with you, either. Dear Abby: What do you think of a 30-year-old man who posted every detail about his breakup with my daughter on Facebook for all of their 1,000 friends and family members to read? There was some personal and very painful stuff.

Is this the “new generation” norm? Or is he immature and inconsiderate?

Hurting for my daughter

Welcome to the wonderful world of the Internet, where millions of individuals have chosen to live their lives online for all to see. And while you and I might consider what happened to be a form of kissing-and-telling, bragging, a bid for sympathy and in poor taste, the people who love your daughter will “unfriend” this person, and those who love gossip will devour every detail with relish.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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