Dear Abby: My daughter thinks if people are busy they should not answer the phone. I believe it’s better to answer and tell the person you’re busy and that you will return their call. Sometimes she doesn’t call me back for nine hours or even the next day. Then I find out she was watching a movie or walking her dog, and didn’t think my call was “important” enough to respond promptly. When she calls me and I say I’m busy and will call her back, she gets mad and says I shouldn’t have answered at all. Will you please tell us what you think?
Kari in Montana
I think that for your daughter to keep you waiting nine hours for a return call if she can answer more promptly shows a lack of respect for your feelings. It’s also possible that you may be calling too often. But only you can answer that.
Dear Abby: When I met my husband he was married. I told him at first that I was not interested. But he ended up divorcing his wife. We have been together for 11 years, married for three.
The problem is his kids. They are all adults. His youngest was 15 when he left. The daughter is angry and blames me for his leaving. This was not the first time he had left her mother. He had a child from another relationship who was conceived during one of his absences.
I am getting tired of the drama and I’m about ready to divorce him for my peace of mind. Should we divorce?
Second wife in California
Heck, no! If you love your husband, stick with him. Because your husband’s daughter is creating drama, he should set her straight. He should also make sure she understands that if she wants him in her life, she will need to make an attitude adjustment.