Dear Abby: My 24-year-old daughter and 21-year-old son work as banquet servers at a local country club. Many of the receptions at which they serve include guests consuming large amounts of alcohol.
If an intoxicated male guest made suggestive comments to my daughter or touched her, he would be asked to leave the facility. But what is my son supposed to do when an intoxicated woman, usually much older than he, pinches his backside and makes inappropriate comments or “invitations”?
My son isn’t a prude. His sense of humor allows him to “laugh it off,” but it happens often and he is becoming annoyed. In fact, he’ll say, “Mom, it’s pretty gross!” Abby, what are these woman thinking? What should he do to promote self-respect but not cause an uncomfortable atmosphere for himself and the guests?
Curious mom in New Jersey
The employee protection rules are no different for males than they are for females. What your son should do first is document the incidents with dates, times and the women involved. He should then report their behavior to the banquet supervisor at the country club. I’m sure the person in charge will want to know, because if the sexual harassment isn’t stopped, it could result in a very embarrassing — and possibly costly — lawsuit against the club.
Dear Readers: I am pleased to offer the traditional Thanksgiving Prayer that was penned by my dear mother, Pauline Phillips.
Oh, Heavenly Father,
We thank Thee for food and remember the hungry.
We thank Thee for health and remember the sick.
We thank Thee for freedom and remember the enslaved.
May these remembrances stir us to service,
That Thy gifts to us may be used for others. Amen.