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Dear Abby: Addict brothers sponge off elderly parents


Dear Abby: My parents are in their 80s. I have two brothers. “Pete,” the oldest, is in his 50s and lives with them. “Dave” lives next door. My parents support them both financially. Both are addicted to meth, and one is hooked on prescription pills as well. My parents are in total denial.

Part of me understands it’s none of my business. The other part of me is furious and wants to put a stop to them using my parents. If I offer suggestions to my parents — such as cutting off Pete and Dave — they get mad at ME!

I’m ready to sever all ties because there’s no stopping this train wreck. Any advice?

No name in the Southwest

I agree there is nothing you can do to “save” your parents — or your brothers, for that matter. You can, however, save yourself. If seeing them is too painful, distance yourself from what appears to be their unhealthy symbiotic situation.

Dear Abby: I live in a generally quiet neighborhood, but my next-door neighbors yell at each other and their children a lot. The shouting sounds like it is escalating.

This morning, the father yelled at his young son, telling him to name the letters of the alphabet he was pointing to. His “lesson” was filled with anger and profanity when the boy made mistakes. It was finally interrupted by the mother, shouting for him to stop. He then screamed, “Shut your mouth!” and she responded, “Don’t you TOUCH me!”

At what point should I call the police, or is this none of my business?

Worried neighbor in California

The turmoil in that household isn’t healthy for the children. The next time the father starts shouting, call the police to report a “domestic disturbance.”

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