Dear Abby: My son, “James,” is 25 and has been dating his girlfriend for three years. He has brought her over only five times.

This is his first girlfriend, and I think he is getting way too serious and thinking about marriage. While she seems nice, I do not think she’s the right girl for my son to marry.

Do I talk to my son about how I feel, or just bite my tongue and let him make his own decision, even though I think he’d be making a big mistake? Or should I say something and risk ruining our relationship?

I’d hate to see him marry her and wind up divorced, knowing I might have been able to stop it.

Mother knows best in New York

At 25 years old, your son is an adult. A three-year relationship is not a whirlwind courtship. James and his girlfriend may already have an inkling about how you feel about her — which is why you have seen them only five times in three years.

If you want any relationship at all with your son in the future, do not interfere. He may be your son, but he’s no longer a child, so don’t treat him like one.

Dear Abby: My wife thinks it’s improper for my parents to include their grandson — our 8-year-old son — in their Christmas card photo.

She thinks he should be included only in OUR Christmas card. What do you think?

Pulled in two directions

I think your wife is selfish, judgmental, and should be ashamed of herself for wanting to deprive your parents in this way.

What’s her problem? It’s obvious that she has one where your folks are concerned.