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Dear Abby: Daughter threatens widowed Dad

 

Dear Abby: My brother lost his wife, the love of his life, three years ago. He has three children. His oldest, a 25-year-old daughter, “Jenny,” told him that “when you marry, it is for life.” She has threatened that if he dates someone or sees anyone, she will be out of his life and he won’t be able to see his future grandchildren. (Jenny is getting married next summer.)

My brother is very upset. He wants to settle this argument before she is married. He hasn’t dated anyone, but feels she shouldn’t be trying to control his life.

Sister Katy in Maine

At 25, it’s time for Jenny to stop making selfish, childish threats she will regret.

While I agree that marriage should be “for life,” her parents’ marriage DID last for life — the life of her mother. That she would begrudge her father continuing to live his life is cruel and wrong.

Dear Abby: I’m 15. A few nights ago a guy friend of mine asked me to “sext.” I was furious, but played along and sent him a picture of an elderly woman in a bikini.

After that, I told him how wrong it was for him to ask me for that. I haven’t spoken to him since.

He texted a close friend of mine, telling her what happened and saying how much he regretted it and loved me.

He has sent me texts apologizing, but I have ignored them. Should I accept his apology?

Disappointed teen in California

Your friend made a mistake and has apologized. If you still have feelings for him, give him another chance. However, if he continues to ask you to do something that you feel is wrong, THAT will be the time to end the relationship.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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