Dear Abby

Dear Abby: Daughter threatens widowed Dad


Dear Abby: My brother lost his wife, the love of his life, three years ago. He has three children. His oldest, a 25-year-old daughter, “Jenny,” told him that “when you marry, it is for life.” She has threatened that if he dates someone or sees anyone, she will be out of his life and he won’t be able to see his future grandchildren. (Jenny is getting married next summer.)

My brother is very upset. He wants to settle this argument before she is married. He hasn’t dated anyone, but feels she shouldn’t be trying to control his life.

Sister Katy in Maine

At 25, it’s time for Jenny to stop making selfish, childish threats she will regret.

While I agree that marriage should be “for life,” her parents’ marriage DID last for life — the life of her mother. That she would begrudge her father continuing to live his life is cruel and wrong.

Dear Abby: I’m 15. A few nights ago a guy friend of mine asked me to “sext.” I was furious, but played along and sent him a picture of an elderly woman in a bikini.

After that, I told him how wrong it was for him to ask me for that. I haven’t spoken to him since.

He texted a close friend of mine, telling her what happened and saying how much he regretted it and loved me.

He has sent me texts apologizing, but I have ignored them. Should I accept his apology?

Disappointed teen in California

Your friend made a mistake and has apologized. If you still have feelings for him, give him another chance. However, if he continues to ask you to do something that you feel is wrong, THAT will be the time to end the relationship.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Read more Lifestyle stories from the Miami Herald

Miami Herald

Join the

The Miami Herald is pleased to provide this opportunity to share information, experiences and observations about what's in the news. Some of the comments may be reprinted elsewhere on the site or in the newspaper. We encourage lively, open debate on the issues of the day, and ask that you refrain from profanity, hate speech, personal comments and remarks that are off point. Thank you for taking the time to offer your thoughts.

The Miami Herald uses Facebook's commenting system. You need to log in with a Facebook account in order to comment. If you have questions about commenting with your Facebook account, click here.

Have a news tip? You can send it anonymously. Click here to send us your tip - or - consider joining the Public Insight Network and become a source for The Miami Herald and el Nuevo Herald.

Hide Comments

This affects comments on all stories.

Cancel OK

  • Marketplace

Today's Circulars

  • Quick Job Search

Enter Keyword(s) Enter City Select a State Select a Category