Dear Abby: I have a close friend who is obsessed with selling “finds” on eBay. I often give her little items that she has mentioned. I always thought she wanted to keep them. Recently I saw some of the things I gave her for sale under her eBay account.
I am dismayed that she is taking advantage of my generosity to make a few bucks. No, she is not desperate. And I don’t feel comfortable saying something unless it’s clever and I won’t appear to be jealous or petty.
Traci in Pennsylvania
You don’t have to say anything clever. What you should do is tell your friend that you were hurt when you saw the items she had requested up for sale on her eBay account. And in the future, be a little less generous about providing stock for her retail venture.
Dear Abby: I have seen letters in your column referring to not being invited to children’s birthday parties and the hurt that follows. It’s amazing to me that some adults have also never learned the importance of being sensitive to the feelings of others.
We recently moved into an established neighborhood where a group of adults go on trips, out to dinner, etc. I am old enough to realize that my husband and I will not be invited to everything. But I am not “old enough” not to feel a stab of pain and isolation when group plans are discussed in my presence and we are not invited.
People need to learn not to discuss group activities in front of those who are not included. No one wants to feel left out.
Newcomer to Minnesota
While I don’t think the offenders are being deliberately cruel, if people would think before opening their mouths, a lot of hurt feelings could be avoided.