Dear Carolyn: I have four siblings who constantly squabble, bicker and post negative comments about each other and many of their friends on Facebook. This interaction has caused one of them legal problems and has destroyed many of their relationships.

I do not have a Facebook account and ignore all of this for the most part. However, sometimes I can’t help but to wonder what is being said about me, if anything. Do you think Facebook and its significance should have me worried? Or am I right for simply writing off my siblings as middle-aged teenagers?

NYC

From top to bottom:

People who trash others to the point of legal calamity are trashing you. No need to waste time wondering whether your name ever comes up.

Facebook and its significance are worrisome on many levels, but none of them warrants your doing anything but the sensible thing you have already chosen: ignoring “all of this.”

As apt as your “middle-aged teenagers” remark appears to be, anyone who wants to fly below (or above) detection by negative-minded people would be wise to avoid any appearance of looking down his or her beak.